Mr. Steve Pettit’s Own Disturbing Statements Concerning the GRACE Report

The following is what Mr. Pettit told the Bob Jones University faculty/staff in a recent staff meeting. Mr. Pettit has also stated nearly identical misleading information emails to me personally:

The allegations that we did not report to the police about some situations: When it comes to children under the age of 18, reporting abuse or assault is absolutely mandatory—every employee at BJU and BJA is required by law to make a report. We comply with what is known as Title IX, which means that educational institutions whose students receive federal funds are not responsible for reporting incidents for those 18 years or older. They cannot report without the consent of those over the age of 18 unless we believe there is imminent or immediate danger to a minor or vulnerable individual. We CAN’T report it—we can only do that with the consent of the one who is a victim. The GRACE report did not acknowledge our Title IX obligations in most of the incidents it cited. So when you are reading in the report that we didn’t report the incident, they were basing it on their philosophy—which is a moral obligation to report. From their perspective, it wasn’t the law; it was the moral obligation that GRACE placed upon our people as a responsibility to report.

Jim Berg was misled in his interview by GRACE to the point where Jim said he must have failed to report; when we actually were within the law because they were making the point of the moral obligation. [Dr. Pettit] was asked by Channel 4 why it is that we didn’t report because of the moral obligation concept—and he responded that we are morally obligated to obey the law of the federal government; and we were obedient to the law in that in some cases, we were not in a position where we could report.

It is terribly disheartening to read these untruths that Mr. Pettit is putting out there about the investigation and about GRACE. Bob Jones University was prohibited from receiving federal funds until 2007 – hence the University not subject to Title IX.

In my case, the counseling occurred in 1996. As an adult, I specifically asked Jim Berg how to report my sexual assaults and child sex-trafficking. To be more specific I asked Mr. Berg which agency it was I should contact, whether it should have been the Greenville County Sheriff’s Department -because I living in Greenville, SC at that time? Or should I have contacted the PA State Police or should I have contacted the Feds? Only a small portion of the counseling had anything to do with my marriage, because I chosen to leave my ex-husband and divorce proceedings were in progress! As described here, Mr. Berg actively spoke against notifying law enforcement. Berg advice was that I “would bring shame upon the cause of Christ – that would cause people to burn in hell for eternity.” Further stating “there is no point in you telling the cops because they would never believe you.” Mr. Berg overtly humiliated and shamed me to the point that I never once thought of reporting to law enforcement for another 20-plus years until GRACE heard and believed me.

To make it worse, in his last paragraph Mr. Pettit goes as far as to claim GRACE misled Jim Berg in his interview! GRACE quoted Mr. Berg’s own words in its report. They allowed Mr. Berg to talk and to talk and to talk. What about his all of his own books and sermons? What about all of his handouts, pamphlets, class lectures and DVD’s? What about Jim Berg’s new project, “Freedom that Lasts”? Is Mr. Berg misled by GRACE while he is writing and teaching?

Jim Berg

All of this makes me wonder if Mr. Pettit actually read the GRACE Report because Title IX gets multiple mentions.

Mr. Pettit, you may wish to ask your attorney about the SAvE Act which took effect March 2014.

More to come….


Sexual Assault Awareness Month 2015 Coming BJU

Each April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM). During April 2015 the national conversation will focus on preventing and to build policies and programs that will respond well to sexual violence. In light of the Bob Jones University choosing to ignore the Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Community (G.R.A.C.E.) Investigation Report.

The national conversation will need focus on Bob Jones University too.
2015 SAAM poster
Recently, the president of the University has made some confusing statements to people in emails. Mr. Pettit has claimed to some that if the University were to follow Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Community (G.R.A.C.E) recommendations would cause the University to be in violation of Title IX and Clery Laws. (PDF)

Psalm 56-8

Dear Stephen Jones, It’s About the People YOUR University Hurt! OWN IT!

Stephen Jones calls G.R.A.C.E. Witness “coward” on twitter.

Stephen Jones calls someone a coward

Honestly, Stephen Jones,  it isn’t about you nor your personal family friends.  (Nor the University’s pet students of your personal friends who get away with running the  facebook page BOJE.  (LINK)
Rick Alitzer

Sermon Audio  Decision Not To Drink Alcohol by Rick Alitzer.

Dear BJU, It's Not Always About YOU. Sometimes It's About The People You've Hurt.

Dear BJU,
It’s Not Always About YOU.
Sometimes It’s About The People You’ve Hurt.


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My GRACE Experience

I was freaking for weeks before I arrived at the location where I was to be interviewed by the Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment (G.R.A.C.E)  Investigative Team.  I had spent the entire night before my interview awake, crying on and off in my hotel room.

Then…here I was–waiting to go into that interview.  All I kept thinking of were ways to bolt out of there!

I stood up because I just couldn’t sit still any longer.

Then the lead investigator stepped out and greeted me.

Now I was really silently FREAKING OUT!

I had a silent conversation with myself.

It went something like this:

“You’re safe.  Those images of your abusers aren’t real.  That happened a long time ago….Those are flashbacks.  You’re safe.  You’re fine.  No one is going to hurt you here.”

“Listen, Cathy.   Everyone you know who has been interviewed has said how these people are NOT judgmental and cruel.”

“These folks facial expressions don’t display anything even closely similar to your abusers or to the smirking face of Jim Berg.”  

“Your finally honed creep detector isn’t going off, is it?  You’ll be fine.”

“You’ve traveled a long way to be here today.  This may be the only chance you’ve had from a solely Christian Group to tell your story to people who are interested in hearing your account— the truth.”  

“You have lived through much worse than merely sitting and talking to these people.  If they’re mean or cruel, leave. But at least give them the chance to prove they are not like your deceitful, guilty abusers who have surrounded the Truth with the Bodyguard of lies.”

Once I had that little silent “chat” with myself and “talked” myself into entering that room.  The entire G.R.A.C.E. Investigative Team were professional, kind, understanding and affirming throughout the entire process before, during and in any follow-up communication after the first interview.    Despite those times where on more than one occasion, I once again would panic, freeze-up, or just want to shut down.   They remained professional, kind, understanding and affirming despite a few occasions where I lashed out of them because fear indeed was doing its A+ grade work on me….

If the G.R.A.C.E. Investigative Team are reading….
I struggle to find the words to express my gratitude to each-and-every one of you.  There have been far too many in my life who have said things to me, or concerning me, to cover up my torture, rape, and physical abuse with insincerity wrapped in saccharine while ignoring or denying my pain and experiences. Trying to dismiss them away.

I am truly grateful for all you all have done and what you all will continue to do.  Thank you.


Psalm 56-8


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My Plea to Bob Jones University

First a little background information.  On Thursday, February 6, 2014  Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment (G.R.A.C.E) announced the organization had been terminated by Bob Jones University.

This news is extremely hurtful— but is confusing at the same time.

Bob Jones University’s President sent a letter marked “Confidential” to Boz Tchividjian terminating G.R.A.C.E on Jan. 27, 2014, yet both Stephen Jones and Bob Jones were silent concerning the firing of G.R.A.C.E.

It is unknown why it is Bob Jones University neglected to publicly announce its decision, however after waiting a full nine business days on February 6, 2014, it was the G.R.A.C.E. Investigative Team who notified its witnesses with the following email:

GRACE email

Followed by this public announcement on the G.R.A.C.E. website.

The following is from my heart:

I plead on behalf of myself and for others who have no voice; Stephen Jones and the BJU Board members, be strong and Godly leaders. Please honor your commitment you PROMISED survivors.

Bob Jones initiated hiring G.R.A.C.E.

Work together honestly with Godly Response to Abuse in the Christian Environment (G.R.A.C.E.) in good faith.

Without games.

Without spin.

Without selfish motives by the school to spruce up its “Show Window.”

—In good faith, finish the job.

Please stop turning away from survivors of the crimes G.R.A.C.E. has been investigating for the last year.

  • All of us are former students and graduates of Bob Jones Academy and/or Bob Jones University.
  • Some of us are grown-children of BJU’s faculty and staff— their sons and daughters.
  • Some are even former faculty/staff and BJU Press authors.
  • Some of us could have been your future if we hadn’t been discarded as worthless wounded.

I beg you to not only see us as we currently are, but I also beg that you see the potential of all we were meant to be. Our potential we could have been if we had been handled correctly when we divulged our painful assaults or molestation’s.

We were One. Of. YOU!

We are BJU–or we were, unless you think of us as mere rubbish. But the truth is, we are not trash that needs to be discarded, without thought or consequence. We are human beings who have been terribly wounded by our abuse, and re-victimized at your University by dorm supervisors, dorm counselors, other faculty members who are “unlicensed counselors” and Administrators in the name of God while students at BJA/BJU.

Our cries may have been heard by the Lord, but the University was deaf.

All most of us ever wanted was a sincere “I’m sorry”, (Rest assured most survivors have become professionals at seeing through insincerity.) Not money. Certainly not media exposure.  If BJU is unwilling to do the things it to which it has already committed, what other recourse do we have left?

It boils down to accepting to allow the G.R.A.C.E. Investigation to finish. Accept G.R.A.C.E.’s report graciously whether BJU agrees with every single one of G.R.A.C.E.’s findings or not.

Be willing to repent as you promised survivors for the wrong way these crimes were handled in the past.

Be willing to really listen and weep with those who weep as the GRACE Team has been doing all of this time.

Be willing to truly mend up the wounded of the past and protect the innocent in the future.

We have been victims, Stephen Jones.

We’re now survivors.

This is not going away.

We won’t quit until BJU chooses to do right.

Not only for us, but to make sure those current or future BJU students who may divulge being a victim of molestation and who will face sexual assault/rape in the future will both be protected and their claims handled correctly by law enforcement. Not shoved under the carpet by Bob Jones University.

Once again, we are not going away.

We will no longer be silenced.
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Thanks so much.

Psalm 56-8